Today I ponder attraction. Have you ever instantly been attracted to someone? It used to be believed that yes, we are attracted to people because of some substance called pheromones; in short, actual signals that serve as some kind of sexual attractant, even though we can’t see or smell them. Recently, some experts are calling that an absolute myth. But it does beg the question, doesn’t it? Why upon meeting someone do we have an immediate raised heartbeat or find our palms sweating or our breathing labored or our cheeks reddening with some inexplicable radiance? Why do some people just make us thrum and make us want to throw ourselves at them while at the same time making us so shy, saying hello is somehow an insurmountable task? We twirl our hair and struggle to make eye contact and bite our lips until they’re pink with worry. It’s impossible to answer and yet I shall try. You can be in a room full of people and different people are attracted to different people right then and there, without a word spoken. Am I right? Yes. Sometimes we are attracted to the same person and then it almost becomes some kind of animalistic competition. Comical even. I dare say no gender is exempt from the gene of competitive fierceness. We often answer it as if it’s the most obvious thing in the world. We say: It’s looks at first but then I have to like his/her personality…but that’s far too simple. Isn’t it? Some of the aesthetically-agreed-upon good-looking people, do nothing for me. And yes, I can meet someone and grow to love him and his personality, but it still does not explain that immediate attraction, that glow, that desperate need upon a glance or first meeting. Throw in online relationships and everything goes to pot. Have you met someone and you felt all of those things? Without touch? Without sound? Hell, even without knowing what they look like? It’s happened to me. So I know it exists. Is it scientific? Nope. It would not hold up in any scientific study. It’s anecdotal, but it’s as real as this laptop I sit in front of and tap. My answer: It makes me believe in an unidentifiable spirit or soul. I don’t believe in religion or the god I was raised to believe in. But I will be the first to admit, there is Energy that just exists. We cannot fathom its presence or existence but can only FEEL its strength to know it’s real. And when that energy somehow unites with another energy that serves as a magnet, it’s called love. And perhaps that is the only answer worth knowing at all.
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edna moran
12/28/2017 16:09:56
Wow I wonder sometimes too...but I feel what you say. Love is love and there is no way around that...if it's meant to be then shall it be...attraction I feel is stronger than love because many times you fall out of love but yet the atraction is still there if this makes any sense...
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R.B.
1/4/2018 14:34:45
Yes, Edna! Makes perfect sense. And I 100% agree.
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Julie
12/28/2017 16:39:27
I have both romantic and platonic relationships that are online and I know that they are real. Very. So I love your answer. Energy is there. I feel it too. Thank you for writing these.
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R.B.
1/4/2018 14:35:14
I do feel it too! Thank you for visiting.
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Master
12/28/2017 16:47:47
Insightful, sweetheart.
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R.B.
1/4/2018 14:35:29
Hey you! Thank you. xo
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G
12/28/2017 16:53:27
I think love is false, especially online.
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G
12/28/2017 16:54:52
I think love can be false and misleading online. It's a mirage. Do not fall for it.
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R.B.
1/4/2018 14:36:01
Do not fall for what exactly? Falling in love or online relationships?
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David
12/29/2017 05:00:32
I agree with you. I met people in real life and my body goes into a spin. Heart skips a beat. Aroused like never before. Ii. Have found some friends online it's unbelievable the energy they give off. Just in their presence. I believe it's spiritually connected through the souls. It's like the souls once loved and one was taken by some trauma. The souls never completed their journey. Finding each other to complete what was started. An awesome feeling to even feel the warmth of the other person without even seeing what they look like. Or hearing their voice. It is a feeling that may never be felt again. Indescribable.
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R.B.
1/4/2018 14:36:43
It is inexplicable. I agree with everything you say here.
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Energy
12/29/2017 09:46:57
My s/o gives off an amazing scent, it's quite intoxicating. Through the years other women have commented on it. My belief system is based solely on energy, the positive energy we give and receive to one another, and from the world around us.
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R.B.
1/4/2018 14:37:48
Mmmmm...I love a man that has that certain smell that makes the knees weak. And with your name, I couldn't imagine you would feel any other way about Energy! xo
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