Do Orgasms Beget More Masturbation?

I asked a question on my new author page: R.B. O’Brien: Up Close and Personal last week, and now I pose it to you: Do you think orgasms beget the desire for more orgasms, like sugar or carbs, like a craving, especially in the form of masturbation, or is the opposite true—that the more orgasms we have the more we can go in between without having them and therefore, crave them less?  What say you? What has been your experience in regards to this? But that’s not all I'm asking, so please, continue reading. I tried to see if I could find any evidence one way or the other, more than anecdotal, to answer this question, and sadly, I found out something I didn’t know, never being able to answer the question I was searching for.

We all know orgasm-“ing” 😊 is an important part of life and health and happiness. Yes. We know this already. It’s true. The research is there. Orgasms are healthy in many ways. We all have read this by now. We’re less depressed, will live longer, orgasms relieve stress, help us sleep better, curb over-eating, and on and on and on. It’s not a revelation there. Why masturbation was (and still is) so taboo for women is a mystery.

But what I didn’t know is that some women can’t orgasm. Not just during intercourse. No. Some women cannot orgasm. AT. ALL. The percentage is startling. And it could be hereditary! In an article in the UK mag Independent, it stated: “15 to 20 per cent of women are physically unable to orgasm, which is known as being ‘anorgasmic’.” This isn’t because their partners are clueless or they haven’t discovered how their bodies work yet or something happened traumatically to make them loathe such experiences. These women can’t climax, PERIOD, never mind the very large percentage (some studies as high as 70-80%!!) of women who say they’ve never orgasmed with a partner, or struggle to, something you can find in multiple sources. And the research states that this could be hereditary!

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This is absolutely new news for me, the idea that a woman may live her entire life and never experience the gift of orgasm. I cannot fathom a life sans orgasm. My. God. What would that be like? It makes me sad that this is a problem only affecting women, that while men may suffer performance issues, they have no problems when it comes to masturbation and climax. I find I absolutely benefit from orgasm as the studies state above with stress relief and sleep. They even help me concentrate. But, I suppose, if there's any downside, they can, sometimes, distract too…and occasionally (ahem), I am unable to do my best work until that little nagging…thing…you know that thing that has a mind of its own is taken care of…and sadly, without any research but anecdotal, I think more begets more…like anything that you crave, this is no different. And while I feel bad for those who can’t experience such release, I suppose, you can’t miss something you never had, right? Having it and then no longer having it would be far worse…I think. And selfishly, I, luckily won’t have to find that out. ​