Oh my. Where to begin with such great comments and feedback? So much to ponder and think about. I think I need a break from thinking. Teaching takes the starch right out of me. Next topic needs to be lighter for sure! Any suggestions?
I wish that it were easier to soul search…that maybe I had started that search earlier. It’s hard when you’ve always been a people-pleaser, the good child, daddy’s little girl. How do you “determine if your fantasies are just fantasies, dark desires, or actual needs”? Where do you even start? And where do you begin to explore deep desires when you’re in a committed relationship? You don’t. And for Natalie, she didn’t seek it out either. It came to her, unexpectedly. It came to her without her even knowing she needed it. Lucky for Natalie. We should all be so lucky. Even if Michael can be an “entitled asshole,” he will help Natalie discover what she needs. And she may just discover that part of her needs are masochistic in nature. And you’re right! The best books have infidelity and flawed characters we love or love to hate. Frankenstein. Lolita (a book I hid from my folks the first time I read it). God damn yes! Best books ever. The list is long. What happens with erotica and romance is that it isn’t taken seriously. It’s not considered “literature” and quite frankly, most of it shouldn’t be. Right? I mean, let’s be honest. The “familiar tropes” cannot be tainted or obscured; there must be a happily ever after, for instance, in romance. And a lot of the erotica is just pap nonsense often for titillation purposes only. I’ve discussed this in an earlier blog. But some of us don’t want that in our reading and certainly don’t want that in our writing. Take your book, Michael, Faith, Hope, and Charity. Familiar tropes? I think not. Worthy of literary note? I do believe so. I loved the science fiction elements of that novel, that Orwellian society, juxtaposed against the couple’s exploration of sexual taboos and desires. It was powerful and thought-provoking. But to W.H. and your experiences with cheating in real life. Man, that’s not cool. I cheated once on my first boyfriend. I was only a freshman in high school. I kissed a senior boy. He was a football player. And he was also my brother’s friend, and I think I just did it to piss off my brother, truth be told! But it ruined my relationship with this boyfriend. Jealousy. Trust issues. Though we stayed together until he moved (then I dated his best friend for seven years! Blog for a different day for sure!), it was riddled with insecurity and power games that were built on distrust. I don’t think I’ve ever been cheated on (am I naïve—maybe), but it wouldn’t feel good if I thought I were happy in the relationship. And perhaps that’s what it boils down to. Are we happy in our relationships? Should we be forced to be so unhappy? So unfulfilled sexually just to please some moral, man-made code? Again, I'm not condoning cheating. I agree with Devilsthorn in that it's selfish. But as another said, if you're cheating, something is missing. Why not find it? Because would you cheat if you were fulfilled? Whether Natalie is weak-minded or a cheater...whether Michael is an asshole or egotistical, they are finding love together. Let’s let them have that journey in their FICTIONAL world.
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J
3/26/2015 00:22:51
Do tell, RB. Enquiring minds want to know. 7-year boyfriend? Tell. Now...or I'll have to punish you.
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Firsttimer
3/26/2015 07:26:12
Hi Rb,
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R.B.
3/26/2015 11:40:58
To J:
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Susan
3/26/2015 12:33:27
Fantasized for a long time that you were a male. LONG time. From literotica.com. You know that. Now that you've told us, I'm excited to know you more. So J is not alone. I want to know about the boyfriend. Did you marry him?
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R.B.
3/28/2015 01:54:19
I did not marry him. He was everything I needed in the bedroom, and everything I didn't need outside of it.
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J
3/28/2015 02:33:42
What do you mean? Inside the bedroom but not outside of it?
W.H.
3/26/2015 14:02:52
Hmmmm, my thoughts are fantasies, do I want my fantasies to be reality, yes in a way. But is it a dark desire, well yes it is, wouldn't want it any other way. I've always wanted to try being the dominate, but also always like others being in control. I've always preferred the bad, dark guys. As for my past heartbreaks with cheating, it's a life lesson well learned, it made me a stronger person, for which I am grateful. It helped me raise a strong family. I'm glad for the life's ups and downs. And I'm glad authors like yourself put it in black and white for others to read.
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S.D.
3/27/2015 06:10:21
Who wants light topics? Not me. I like this. I'm going to say something that is probably not going to be that popular. I really don't think anyone should be worried about any of this stuff until marriage. Marriage means that's it. So if you can't be faithful to one person, don't get married. It's that simple. I want someone who doesn't lie to me. That's what I care about. I just want honesty. That's what the point is. Trust is everything. I can handle if someone needs to fulfill their demon. Just don't lie. I will make the choice of whether to stay.
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R.B.
3/27/2015 11:15:17
I will get back to that, S.D. Those on literotica are getting mighty angry with me. I love that series too. Erik is exactly the right mix! He's got such a tormented soul. You just know he wants to be sweet. But I really want to finish a few other projects first. I just need to get through the school year.
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J
3/28/2015 03:11:04
What do you mean? Inside the bedroom but not outside of it?
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R.B.
4/1/2015 09:49:10
Hahahaha! Promises. Promises!
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